We knew that parenting wouldn’t be easy, but from last few years, it’s gotten even more difficult. There are reasons for this and our TMF team may have found out some of them. Take a look at these three important family problems that every parent is facing nowadays.
Problem #1: Kids don’t share their problems with parents
Let’s face it: Our kids don’t come to us for their problems as often as they should. It’s like they have been told not to share their issues or talk about them with their parents as if they would be scolded or even punished. But isn’t that true? Yes it is. We as parents, first want our kids to talk to us about everything but when they come to us and tell about their mistakes, we yell, lose control and immediately order grounding orders.
This is the reason why kids don’t come to their parents even for the their most difficult problems. Consider how would you react if your child tells you about being bullied? You will immediately turn into an overprotective parent. Your response will determine if they would come to you for their problems next time. So make sure you have a controlled response to your child’s revelations, including for those which may want you to bang your head in the wall.
Problem #2: Kids are smarter than us
Internet isn’t one of the best learning platforms for kids, especially when it’s used without parent’s assistance. There is a difference between knowing things and how to just find things. Kids have turned smarter than their parents, but that’s only for how they can keep their lives discrete. Their focus of knowledge is limited to:
How they can keep their lives private
- How to pretend so they can maximise their screen time
- How they can privately talk to their friends on social media platforms
- How to wipe out history and cache of every app they use.
It’s unfortunate that the websites providing these tutorials are easily accessed by anyone. In fact, no one actually care, just like dating and social networking app developers don’t do anything about underage use of their apps.
Problem #3: We don’t talk to our kids as friends
Kids may find it inappropriate to talk their parents about puberty, sex or related things. They may not even find it comfortable to talk about their relationships, and even school life.
The problem lies with the authoritative attitude of most of the parents. Every parent does a lot to take care of their kids’ needs—we wash their clothes, provide them with food, drive them to their friend’s place (and the list can go on and on). We may feel they don’t notice or be thankful for all the things that we do for them, but the reality is: Our kids are scared of having friendly conversations with us. They need a friend who they can talk to about everything and most of the times, all they see in their parents is a grumpy old father or mother who never misses a chance to punish them. It’s also common for parents to lose trust of their kids by saying things at the wrong time, or not trying enough to understand their situation. That’s when they drive themselves towards independence where they won’t have to be answerable to anyone’s questions.
Try talking to your child in a more friendly way. Don’t be afraid and just talk. Start a conversation that may interest them. If you will start to admit your flaws, there are higher chances of deeper conversations with your kids.
What was your hardest phase of being a parent? Let us know in the comments.
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