Whether it’s about cleaning up the room, or doing homework, you don’t have to give up on the hope that one day; your kids will do these things themselves, without your saying. Follow these steps and chances are that your teen will listen to you and get things done.
1. Focus On Your Relationship with Your Teen
If you want your kids to grow into responsible adults, you will have to stop with the nagging and complaining that comes out as a result of the frustration, when your teen show lack of work ethic. It damages your relationship immensely.
As it gets worse and communication gap widens, least do kids give a damn about what parents say.
On the contrary and the positive side of all of this, you can motivate your teens to follow your leads. When your relationship with them is blossoming, you can focus on some quality time together, like watching a movie or dining out together. Create more opportunities for healthy interactions—it will definitely strengthen your relationship.
2. Make Rules to Encourage Healthy Habits
It’s very least likely to see to see teens active and productive, who spend their day playing video games and sleep till noon on weekends. You will be required to set rules around screen time and encourage sleep routines that are healthy. You can use parental control apps for their electronic devices.
3. Praise Your Teens for Good Behavior
If your teen shows signs of responsible behavior, you will need to praise them for that, in a very subtle way, so they won’t overwhelm themselves. Genuine praise is necessary for all their hard work but don’t throw buckets of exaggerated applaud on your teen. Be modest and stick with words like “Great job” and “thank you”.
4. Reinforce Through Privileges
Motivating your teen can be reinforced using incentives. You can tell your kid if they clean their room every day, you will give them more time on weekends to spend with their friends or anything similar that doesn’t lead to poor habits. Don’t attach incentives like more screen time with good behavior, because eventually, it will come back to from where it started—poor habits.
5. Give Warning
Don’t rely on nagging or begging if you want your kids undertake a task—simply warn them once. Remind your teen for the consequences of not doing their work. Say “remember to clean the dishes if you want to go out to your friend’s place tomorrow” or “skateboarding is off until you aren’t mowing the lawn”.
6. Let Them Face Natural Consequences
Natural consequences can be a very effective tool to teach your kids about something. If your teen will not do their homework, they will fail their assignments. Or, if they don’t do the laundry, there will be no clean clothes to wear. However, for situations where your kid might be in a potential danger, you can’t go for the same stance and might have to intervene to save them from the harmful consequences.
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